Each day during January, Via Christi is offering One Healthy Thing you can do to create a better 2014. Today’s tip comes from Luetta Duerksen, staff therapist with Via Christi Behavioral Health.
Healthy relationships make people happier and ease stress. But it’s important that these relationships are realistic and flexible. Marriages and other important relationships in our lives can vary from day to day from being the “most wonderful” to “how did I get into this?”
As a Marriage and Family Therapist at Via Christi Behavioral Health, I have found that my healthy relationships with co-workers, patients and the loved ones in my life require attention to allow them to grow.
I have often heard the statement, “If you loved me, you would know what I want.” Often our loved ones do not know what we want (and sometimes, neither do we!). It’s important to communicate and share our desires and feelings to help build a strong relationship.
Additionally, let me suggest one healthy habit to further enhance your relationships.
Unexpected “thank yous” offered at least once a week (once a day would be better) have shown to improve relationships. Expressing your gratitude indicates you are not taking your spouse or significant other for granted and improves the way both parties view each other. Thanks can be given for simple everyday tasks, for niceties like bringing you a drink while you are watching the football game, or for more significant things such as how the individual has improved your life. Saying – and hearing – “thank you” fosters a mutual respect and often yields more positive behaviors and giving gestures.
Take time today to think of a reason to say thank you. A simple expression of gratitude can you make your relationship what you want it to be!